What to say
Thinking of you messages
A message on somebody's birthday is expected. A message on an ordinary Tuesday is not, which is exactly why it means more.
This is the most-used reason on this site after friendship, and it needs no justification at all.
Short
- No reason. You were just on my mind and I thought you should know.
- Thinking of you today. That is the whole message.
- Saw something that reminded me of you and decided to actually say so.
- Hope today is being reasonable to you.
- Just checking you are alright. No need to write an essay back.
When they are having a hard time
Resist the urge to fix it. Sitting with someone is the harder and better thing.
- I do not have anything useful to say about it. I just did not want you sitting with it on your own.
- No advice, I promise. Just here.
- You do not have to be alright, and you do not have to perform being alright for me either.
- Whatever you need this week, ask. If you do not know what you need, that is also fine.
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Is it weird to message someone for no reason?
It is one of the few things almost nobody minds receiving. The absence of an occasion is what makes it feel genuine.
What if they do not reply?
A message like this does not require a reply to have worked. Plenty of people keep them and say nothing.